A woman was left with horrific injuries after her violent ex-boyfriend kicked her in the face – because she changed her Facebook profile picture.
Lois Ashton had her jaw broken and three of her teeth knocked out after the vicious attack by her ex-boyfriend, Andrew McNair.
McNair, who was jailed for 36 months, savagely kicked, punched and slapped Lois, after he saw she’d taken him off her profile picture on Facebook.
Lois has now shared pictures of her injuries in a bid to help other victims of domestic abuse.
The 29-year-old, from Liverpool, said she “thought she was going to die” and has since been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
She told the Liverpool Echo : “He was lovely at first and so nice to me. But as the months went by he changed.
“I remember the first time he slapped me across the face.
“We were having an argument and I was shouting at him and he just slapped me.
“Another time he kicked me in the head and gave me a black eye.
“I should have left him for good at that point, but he was on the phone every day and saying how sorry he was and crying, so I would end up going back.”
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Ms Ashton, who would later face her attacker in court, said McNair smashed up her friend’s house in a fit of rage in another incident.
But it was after a night out with friends, in December 2016 that Lois ended up in hospital after McNair attacked her.
She said: “I had arranged to go out with my friends for a good girly night out.
“He looked annoyed that I was going out and I said I didn’t think you would want to come on a girls night out and he said ‘the offer would have been nice’.
“So I ended up inviting him and he came with me.
“We went to a pub but he didn’t even sit with us, he just sat in another booth just staring at us.
“I thought he was acting strange but I just trying to ignore it and enjoy the night with my girls.”
After the pub Lois said her friend invited the girls back to her house for cocktails and she asked McNair to come.
She added: “I stayed with him at the pub while he finished his pint and then we walked to my friends.
“I said he could come but he said it was fine and gave me a kiss.
“But then when I got there he was texting me saying how I had picked my mates over him.
“My friend told me to just turn my phone off and I did and we ended up having an absolute ball, just singing and jumping around in the front room, like girls do.”
Lois said when she went to bed that evening she changed her profile picture on Facebook from one of her and her McNair to one on her own.
But the next afternoon she woke up and saw McNair standing over the bed she had slept in.
She said: “He was standing on my legs screaming at me.
“I managed to run outside and was banging on the neighbours door for help but no-one answered.
“He came outside and locked the door and threw away the key so my friend couldn’t help me.
“And then he just started punching and slapping me.
“He kicked me in the side of the head and it knocked me over.
“He then booted me three times in the face and knocked my teeth out.
“One of my teeth actually went up into my nasal cavity and if I put my finger up my nose I could feel my tooth.
Lois added: “I thought I was going to die. There was so much blood.
“I was on my hands and knees in the street and it was a passerby who rang an ambulance and my ex ran off.”
Lois said she didn’t report the incident to police at the time “purely out of fear” and instead moved into a domestic violence refuge for women.
But after repeated threats and abuse on another occasion she decided to tell the police what had happened.
She said: “I wear a partial denture now at the age of 29. I struggle with face to face contact with people, especially men.
“I still haven’t fully recovered and I have flashbacks and have been diagnosed with PTSD.
“I don’t really like to leave the house.
“I am doing online modules for my panic attacks because I am having them daily.
“I even get nervous when there is a knock at the door.”
Andrew McNair appeared in court in November 2017 and was sentenced to 36 months in prison, after pleading guilty to wounding, destroying property and common assault.
He was also given a restraining order.
Lois, who attended court, said her ex has now been released from prison.
She said: “This was basically all because I changed my profile picture from one of me and him to just one of me and it sent him over the edge.
“In court the judge even said how he had watched my ex just stare at me the whole way through the case.
“He was released after 11 months and is out now living his life, like what he did was a minor incident.
“I would say to other women and men to just leave at the first sign of violence.
“If I had, my life would have been so different now.”
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Source : BirminghamMail