Bridesmaids are individuals, just like any other group of people, but there are a lot of stereotypes about them as a group. Some of the notions people hold about the bridal party may be fairly accurate, while other times they are outdated or just plain wrong. Learn the myths and truths about bridesmaids here.
Myth: Bridesmaids are jealous of the bride, and that is why they are disagreeable about picking their dresses, bridesmaid jewelry, and showing up for wedding crafting parties at the bride’s house.
Truth: While you might run across the occasional attendant who loves being in the spotlight, most women today are not so desperate to be married that they would sabotage the happiness of an engaged friend. If your bridesmaids can’t agree on a dress, maybe it is because the styles you are suggesting are too expensive or just not their taste. Maybe they do not want to come over for a wedding crafting party because they have already spent hours making paper flowers or favors for your wedding. Ask yourself if your expectations are reasonable before jumping to the conclusion that your bridesmaids are being jealous and uncooperative.
Myth: Bridesmaids are perfectly happy to dress up like a matched set of Barbie dolls, right down to their hairstyles, shoes, and nail polish color.
Truth: Your bridesmaids are individuals, each with her own unique sense of style and taste. While attendants may expect to have to wear the same dress, the truth is that they would prefer to get to choose styles which are similar but not identical. Even if you do decide that matching dresses will work best for your wedding, give your bridesmaids the freedom to shop for unique bridesmaid jewelry and shoes, and to wear their hair and makeup however they like.
Myth: Bridesmaids love throwing bridal showers, and they are obligated to give at least one shower in the bride’s honor.
Truth: You know what, some bridesmaids do love planning bridal showers, but others may not. Not every woman was born with the party planning gene, nor does every attendant have the time or money needed to host a party. Bridesmaids often do choose to host a shower for the bride, but it is a choice, not a requirement. The bride should never demand that her bridal party throws her a shower.
Myth: Your bridesmaids will be one big happy family.
Truth: You obviously like all of your bridesmaids, but that does not mean that they will all like each other. Brides often pick attendants from all different parts of their lives, past and present, and not all of the women will have anything in common. However, the one thing your bridesmaids should have in common is caring about you, the bride, so it is reasonable to expect that they will at least be pleasant to each other even if they never become b.f.f.s.