What do you do when you want a baby but the right person just hasn’t come along yet?
Some people wait and hope, whilst some people actively go out looking for that person.
Well, one Midland woman has revealed how she spent £2,000 on sperm to have her dream baby because she “didn’t want to wait for a man”.
Rachel Allison always knew she wanted to be a young parent and made the life-changing decision when she turned 26.
And in the following March, baby Evelyn was born.
The now 28-year-old spent almost £9,000 in total on IVF and sperm from a donor living in Sweden.
“I always wanted to be a young parent like my mum. I didn’t want to wait for someone to come along,” the insurance advisor told DerbyshireLive.
“In total, it cost £8,700. I had money saved from work and I borrowed some from the bank, but you pay for it in stages.”
Rachel visited an IVF clinic where she had her fertility checked first, and then she had one consultation before she had her eggs collected, followed by the embryo transfer a few days later.
“IVF costs a lot of money but there is more of a chance with it than insemination.
“The sperm was £2,000 and I bought two lots of it just in case.”
Rachel said choosing a sperm donor was “like a dating site, minus the pictures and cheesy chat-up lines”.
“It shows their hair colour, eye colour, education and family history. It didn’t take too long to choose, I was just drawn to one of them,” she said.
Rachel’s donor was from Sweden and she says she’s happy to let Evelyn get in touch with her biological father when she’s 18.
She insisted that comments such as “it’s not fair bringing up a baby without a dad” didn’t put her off.
“A lot of people want to do it but worry about what people would say, but there isn’t a normal family set up nowadays.”
Around the same time that Rachel had Evelyn, she also decided to donate her own eggs – and is now planning on doing it again.
She said she wanted to give back to families who may be desperate for a baby.
Rachel said she wants “nothing more” than to meet somebody but that she would do it all again with IVF if need be.
She said: “I get a lot of people messaging me about what I’ve done. People donate blood and organs so why not donate eggs or sperm?
“I want to raise awareness about things which aren’t spoken about.”
The 28-year-old credits her mum Tracey for her help with support and childcare.
Tracey Joines said: “When Rachel told me that she was going to try for a baby I had no hesitation in supporting her all the way, I knew she would make a fantastic mum.
“We are a very close family and Evelyn has been a blessing to all of us.
“I know some people frown upon her decision to be a single mum but at least Rachel did it because she wanted a baby – there are sadly a lot of people that end up as a single parent through no fault of their own.”
Source : BirminghamMail