It seems to be a common theme with those suffering from borderline personality disorder that whether in a monogamous relationship are not the person with BPD often finds themselves either having reckless sex with multiple partners or attempting to have numerous sexual relationships.
In this article we will quickly explore sex and bpd. One of the common theories as to why people with BPD have such reckless sex lives is the fact that they constantly feel emotional emptiness. Even when they find a stable emotional relationship their fear of abandonment causes them to become paranoid about the stability of their relationship and the validity of the love coming from their partner. A possibility for the reasoning behind sex and borderline personality disorder is that the sufferer of BPD actually tries to self sabotage their relationship in order to end the relationship before they are actually abandoned by their partner.
Another theory as to reckless sex and borderline personality disorder is that the BPD sufferer actually gets an emotional high from bonding with the sexual partner even if only for a short time. They are literally trying to fill in emptiness inside themselves and they try and try to fill that void with sex. After having a sexual affair the person with borderline personality disorder may not have the same amount of guilt as someone with non-BPD. The reason is projection, oftentimes people with borderline personality disorder project their negative behaviors onto others including their partners. This means that someone with this illness who is having a reckless sexual affair may have a tendency to build a fake affair that their spouse or loved one is having in their head. They literally make themselves believe that their partner is also cheating and that they are therefore justified in having their reckless sexual affair.
There are many reasons that can lead to sex and this illness, if you think you have borderline personality disorder yourself you should seek professional counseling. If your partner currently has borderline personality disorder and you fear they have reckless sexual behavior you should let your feelings be known in either work with the person on helping them get therapy and receive treatment or decide if the relationship cannot go on. Having borderline personality disorder partner is having a reckless extramarital sexual affair is not only a risk for your health but your emotional well-being. People with bpd have a keen ability to cover up their affairs and make you feel that you are the crazy one for accusing them of doing something behind your back.
Before you get caught up in trying to prove whether or not your spouse with bpd is having extramarital sexual affairs you probably want to focus on the fact that they have borderline personality disorder and make a decision on whether or not to support them in treatment or end the relationship you are currently in. If you are being abused by your spouse in any way regardless of the fact that they have BPD you need to place your safety above everything else. No mental illness is an excuse for physical or emotional abuse. If you are currently looking for a therapist that specializes in borderline personality disorder make sure that you bet their credentials and that they understand BPD as many therapists have a difficult time diagnosing BPD in finding suitable treatments.