Have you been seeing a guy for a while and are ready to commit to him, but don’t quite know how to get him to commit to you? Are you worried that you’ll lose him if you come across as too aggressive?
It’s a dilemma for many women sooner or later, but the good news is you don’t have force him to do something against his will to make a guy commit to you. Keep reading to find out how to make it happen naturally.
You can be assertive without coming across as too aggressive. The difference is a little assertiveness will push him in a direction he’s already going, while aggressiveness will push him before he’s ready, and is more likely to make him back off. When it comes to commitment, guys aren’t necessarily opposed – it’s just that society tends to expect them to play the field for longer than women do.
When they find the right woman, though, guys are certainly capable of commitment. You can be assertive by letting him know that you will be there for him no matter what. Get to know his personality and what he likes to do and make a point of doing them with him. By being assertive in this way, you’ll get him to see you as someone he’d like to have around long term.
Maintain a positive attitude
If he doesn’t call for a few days, don’t just sit around and feel sorry for yourself. Find something interesting to do with your time so that he doesn’t think you’re just waiting for him to call (even if you are).
When he does call, be positive. Talk to him about what you’ve been doing and suggest fun things you can do together. If he’s been feeling a little guilty about not calling, he may expect you to nag him a little. Just imagine how relieved and happy he will be if, instead of nagging, you make it clear that you are happy to hear from him.
If you can maintain a positive attitude when you are with him, you’ll soon have him thinking of you as a very special person – one he wants to spend a lot of time with. That’s really the best way to make a guy commit. Just be patient. When he’s ready to commit, it will be a natural next step in your relationship, and he’ll think it’s all his idea.